The real imposter is the part of you that hesitates
Do you want your dreams to come true? Wants to fly like an eagle in the sky. Think about the goals you set for your life to be fulfilled. Did you experience the feeling of being an achiever?
If yes, then what stops you from chasing your dreams?
Is it the people around you, lack of money or knowledge, or insufficient resources?
NO…it’s your inner thoughts, the inner self, hesitation, and internal resistance. Every time you think about making efforts for your dreams, the following kinds of thoughts cross your mind:
- What if I fail?
- Can I not do this?
- I cannot compete with my peers.
- I cannot give up my comfort zone.
- Do they like me enough to hire me?
I feel hesitant to tell people about my success; what if it turned out to be a fraud?
Trust me; these are all lame excuses, the imposter syndrome. The thoughts of being weak, incompetent, questioning your skills, social anxieties, and insecurities are a part of the phenomenon or condition known as imposter syndrome. According to a survey, about 70% of people in the world experience such feelings at some point in their lives.
It’s ok to have self-doubts sometimes, as everybody has some fear when starting something new, but letting your fears overpower your capabilities is not acceptable.
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Why do people develop imposter feelings?
The actual cause of imposter feelings is still unknown. However, some experts say it’s due to personality traits like anxiety or neuroticism. In contrast, others claim that family and behavioral causes have a lasting effect on a person’s mind.
Childhood memories, for example, the feelings that your grades are not good enough to satisfy your parents and compete with your siblings, can also develop imposter feelings in your subconscious mind.
The third important factor that gives rise to imposter feelings is environmental or institutional discrimination. Psychology says a sense of belonging strengthens your confidence. When surrounded by people who look like you, you feel more confident. The third important factor that gives rise to imposter feelings is environmental or institutional discrimination.
How to deal with impostor syndrome?
Imposter syndrome is real, but you can cope with your internal hesitations. Here are some tips you can use when dealing with any kind of feeling like an imposter.
Understand your inner voice
Make a positive, intelligent assessment that can help to reveal different saboteur voices that keep you away from advancing.
Share your feelings
Inform your close ones about your thoughts and how you are feeling. Irrational beliefs tend to grow faster when hidden, unresolved, and not discussed.
Assess your abilities
If you always believe to be incompetent in social and performance situations, assess your abilities realistically. Jot down all your accomplishments and skills that you are good at, then compare them with your self-assessment.
Take baby steps
Stop being a perfectionist. Take little steps, set small targets for yourself, and reward yourself when you successfully achieve them. Participate in group discussion, and don’t hesitate to share your opinion.
Make a habit of showing self-compassion
Be kind to yourself and show self-compassion because you are a human being and humans make mistakes. Understand where your inadequacies and self-doubts come from and start working on them.
Keep in mind the possibility of failure
It is good that you took some action but always prepare yourself for the likely outcomes if your effort might get failed. It is not the end of the world, and try to learn from your failure rather than letting them hinder your progress.
The imposter syndrome is a negative behavior, but you can overcome it through some practice and by changing your thinking pattern. Don’t hesitate to accept your fears, try to work on them, and don’t let your imposter feeling hold you back. Don’t push yourself too hard, and look at your accomplishments.
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